20 somethings, yes, you love him, you want to be with him and watch him grow, watch him become a better man day by day. You believe that he has potential, potential to become that respectable man you've always envisioned and deserve. So you invest your time and emotions, thinking that he will change his ways and realize immaturity must go, thinking that he will change to be a better man for you. As the S&P, you laugh.

We've all been there, been promised, been fooled, and been disappointed over and over again. Men don't change, not for a girl. They might change temporarily for a girl, but with time, they go back to how they were before. Men do not truly change unless it is for themselves - ask an honest guy and he will concur. Given the facts, S&Ps we ask ourselves, what do we do? It's actually easier than you think, the main thing you should change is not him, it is your own mindset. Ask yourself this: are his shortcomings tolerable in the grand scheme of things? Does his good character side outweigh the bad? Is it even worth putting up with? Can you be with him "as is" for the rest of your life?

If you can change your mindset and focus on yourself, realize what kind of guy you really want, instead of turning him into some investment project hoping he'd change for the better in the future, the picture becomes much clearer.

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