Power Struggle

Written by Smart and Pretty

Friday, 29 May 2009 18:51

S & P women are strong women. They mature faster than others with high exposure to multi-facets of society, they are strong willed and are often successful at what they do. If their partner is also strong and successful to balance the relationship, that's great. But when a 20 something girl is successful for her age, it is difficult to find men who match or surpass that success, let alone maturity, also at 20 something. As a result, the relationships we get ourselves into, S&Ps, contain a fair amount of power struggle.

Money. When you make more than the man, how do you feel? How do you think he feels? There is probably nothing much either of you can do when you land a higher paying job than he does right out of college and you are smart to continue planning your career to ensure that income grows exponentially in the future. Nothing wrong with that. It just feels funny when compared to your man, you seem like the sugar mama...

Most girls want to feel taken care of by their boyfriends, and hope to be with a guy who is comparable in pay if not higher. Not being superficial, just being real. Even if you don't mention the money thing to him, he already knows, and he already wishes he could provide more for you. Conflict inevitably stir up, as power struggle comes in play when there is insecurity. He knows traditionally the man should be the bread earner- he thinks you secretively wish to be with a much wealthier man, when you probably secretively wish the same.

Statistically men's age at marriage is older than women's because that allows men more time to mature, become financially successful and capable of providing for another person. What do we learn from this S&Ps? At 20 somethings, we're still young, have fun! Don't dwell on relationships with men who are not mature and able to accept financial responsibilities yet.